Internal Family System Therapy・Somatic Mindfulness・Ancestral Wisdom・中文整合咨询
Empowered by a field of love
inner resourcing for courageous humans who are ready to transform old patterns & unlock new levels of aliveness
Multicultural Sensitive, LGBTQ+, Poly Friendly, Sex Positive, Kink Positive, Neurodiversity Honoring
You crave a life cycles of overwhelm, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.
You are a deep thinker and feeler but feel suppressed in your power.
You are feel the grief of losing your sense of belonging, aliveness and joy
You are exhausted by the inner war inside you.
But you don’t want to play victim anymore.
You wonder what would it be like to care less, speak your truth, and finally do those things that fulfill you.
I get you. I’ve been there.
You don't need to push harder.
You need more inner resource—so doing hard things becomes easier.
That's where I come in.
You're not a normal human being, and I'm not your normal therapist. The work we do together is alchemical: I walk alongside you with a light as you integrate fragmented pieces of yourself, creating safety to move through even your darkest places.
We skip the traditional talk therapy that reinforces old patterns. Instead, we get real about what's actually happening and what you truly want.
We slow down. We listen to the unspoken voices in your body that carry deep wisdom. I give you practical tools so you can step into who you've always known you could be—the lover, leader, parent, creator, visionary, cycle-breaker, trailblazer.
Ready for your breakthrough?
I guide people through meaningful transformation—uncover the truth of their system and show them what it looks like to reclaim power, joy and their uniqueness.
My own healing journey led me to many roads less taken, through which I found balance within the paradox of my existences.
Hey there, I am Xuel. 👋
I'm a bilingual, bicultural ex-software-engineer-turned-psychotherapist-turned-creatrix&facilitator .
My Specialities
Internal Family System
level 2 trained - “the most effective psychotherapy for developmental trauma"
普通话整合咨询
用IFS、跨文化认知、和东方身心智慧，在母语的环境下支持你回到更真实而有活力的自己
Thriving with Neurodiversity
understand your difference,
build emotional resilience, and embrace your unique strength
Life Force Energy, Sexuality & Shame
connect to your needs, desires and creative life energy through letting go of pain and limiting beliefs stored in your body
Spiritual & Psychedelic Integration
energy awareness & healing and support for spiritual / psychedelic/ transpersonal experiences
Somatic Mindfulness (via Tamura Method)
body-based therapeutic inquiry to drop into your sense awareness, move stuck energy and receive somatic wisdom
Intergenerational & Ancestral Healing for Asians
heal generational trauma and realign your connection to wise and kind ancestral support
Human Design Insights & Practices
accomplish more with less by recognizing your gifts and engaging your Human Design strategy
Offerings
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Individual Therapy
online 1:1 integrative therapy sessions
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Couples Counseling
online couples therapy
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In-person Ancestral Homecoming Retreat in Dali, Yunnan, China
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Human Design Reading
individual calibration experience
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微信公众号
我作为心理工作者、数字游民的的文字回家之路
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中文整合咨询服务
专为华人设计的身心整合心理服务
Invest in Inner Foundations of Well-Being.
Embodied Awareness
Imagine being able to recognize and dialogue with the signal of your body so that you become a sovereign Queen / King who is in charge of your health, emotions, energy, beliefs and boundaries.
Grounded Being
Imagine no longer being burdened by your self-doubts and shame. Instead, you are centered in your authenticity and truth in the way you speak, touch, listen, move and respond.
Aligned Relating
Imagine being unfazed by other people's judgements and emotions, connected to your ability to love no matter the circumstances which allows you have ease in giving and receiving, communicating and decision-making, loving and being loved.
Testimonials
“Before working with Xuel I was struggling with understanding my purpose in life and acknowledging my wants, desires, and values. We practiced addressing the different parts of me and affirming my beliefs through guided reflection, meditations, and visualizations. Thanks to her guidance in understanding myself this way, I was able to overcome lots of self doubts and achieved the outcomes I wanted in professional and personal lives. Now I feel a lot more grounded and connected between my mind and body”
— Jo. H.“I have this deep quite place in my soul and I feel like you are a friend and a guide walking by my side to go there.”
— C. “在和雪儿开始工作之前，我在工作和家庭上经历了非常大的变故。我一直以来都在与之抗争的情绪问题一一爆发，而我当时处在一种非常麻木茫然及疲惫的状态中难以自救。在和雪儿的咨询中，她非常耐心地用她的洞察力及同理心帮助我逐渐敢于面对自己的内心并且学会关心自己内心受到伤害的部分。现在我似乎能用一种更开放和积极的态度来面对生活中的种种麻烦，也能用更温柔的态度来面对自我内心。”
— Y.S.Upcoming events
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Ancestral Homecoming Retreat: 7 day / 6 night retreat in Dali, Yunnan, China May 24-30, 2026